Heard of getting your groove on? Well, right now it's time to get your flirt on! February 13th through the 19th is National Flirting Week. With Valentine's Day at the very beginning of the week, imagine the week-long possibilities. You're married, you're committed, and you're in love - great! What about sizzle, spice and passion? Remember all of the flirting that took place while you and your sweetie were courting? Wasn't it fun, exciting, and well worth the effort? Well, a little effort now can get the flirt right back where it belongs - back in the daily mix!
Try a few of these pointers to steer your love-life back into the dangerously smokin' category. But remember just a few. You wouldn't want your spouse to spontaneously combust!
By Sight
Ready for a little non-verbal flirtation? Call up that "come hither" look. You know the look. It was probably the one that let him know that you were really interested in the first place. Spend some time really looking at your spouse. Glance at him for a few seconds and then look away. Bat your eyelashes, lick your lips and look deeply into his eyes. Flash him a brilliant "just for you" smile and if you're feeling a little daring, lean in for that kiss after looking longingly at the shape of his mouth, the fullness of his lips, the.Get the picture? Wink, wink. By the way, a saucy wink works well too.
By Sound
Give him a call. Let him know that you miss him when he's away from you. When was the last time you told your spouse exactly what he means to you? What about all of the things you love about him, like how he provides for your family, or the way he loves to interact with the children, or even the way he fills out a pair of jeans? Doesn't matter what it is, as long as it's complimentary. Better yet, find a quiet moment and whisper it in his ear. Everyone loves hearing that they're loved and appreciated. That alone can be one of the best aphrodisiacs around. A little shy? Select a few "mood" songs and let them do the talking for you. He'll get your drift.
By Touch
Hug him as if it were your first touch after eons of being apart. Touch him, often and casually. A simple hand placed on an arm, or rub on the back in passing can cause thoughts to turn to the bedroom. Spend an entire evening delivering casual touches, hugs and light caresses. Then follow it with a relaxing massage or some time running your fingers through his hair and he'll all but purr.
By Distance
You don't have to be present to flirt. Send your spouse flowers, candy, or balloons, just because. Leave a note tucked in his luggage, if he's doing the traveling or leave a note on the pillow at home, if you are. A well written note can convey every flirtatious thought and then some. Let technology lend a helping hand and send an email, fax or text message for his eyes only. Write a Top 10 list of things you love about your spouse and hide it where it can be discovered. Proximity helps, but it's not necessary.
Up Close and Personal
Plan a romantic lunch followed by an even more romantic afternoon before the kids get home from school. Leave a coupon on the pillow to be redeemed after the house is all quiet for a massage, bubble bath a deux, slow dance, etc. Want to know what you'll both be thinking about all day? Bring dinner home or surprise your spouse with a night out someplace from their "wish list." What about a picnic at your favorite remote location, or in the middle of the living room. An instance of when location, location, location is truly irrelevant.
Make it all about Him
Get a sitter for an entire evening devoted to taking care of his wants and desires. Plan his favorite meal. Let him watch his favorite television show (although he may not want to.) Rent a movie for the two of you and cuddle on the couch. If he likes to dance, turn on the stereo, even if you have two left feet. Play a game that he loves, etc. Does he hate to load the dishwasher? Do it for him for the night. Does he have a penchant for almond massage oil? Then so be it. Or a fondness for a bedroom smelling of cinnamon and vanilla? Make it so. Let him know that this is HIS night and enjoy it with him. Somewhere down the road don't be surprised to find the shoe on the other foot!
Let this be just the beginning of reintroducing flirtation back into your marriage. You're married - not dead! Be nice and appreciative to each other and bring that slow simmer to a hot sizzle!
Happy Valentine's Day and Let the Flirtation Begin!
