Oohhh! An entire month dedicated to pleasuring your mate! Close your eyes and take in all the potential. Can you imagine what will happen if you discuss the theme of the month with your mate and decide to make it a joint effort? Surprise each other with things, places, and ideas designed to please. Need some ideas?
5 Top Pleasure Principles
1. Explore the Unknown.
Dedicate the month to trying out all of the things that you feel comfortable doing, that you know your mate would love for you two to try together. If it feels right - get ready to take a walk on the wild side. Granted not everyone's wild side will have you swinging from the chandelier or buying body chocolate, but a new type of cuisine, or a different type of date night enjoyed together is bound to amp up the pleasure meter. Remember it probably won't be pleasurable if it's too far out of your comfort zone. Explore just a little bit at a time for maximum enjoyment.
2. Create Your Own Little Bag of Tricks.
Have each of you select 30 things that you think would make you wild with pleasure this month. Write them down on a slip of paper and place them in bag. Now swap bags and draw an item each day of the month to be executed that day. Imagine the possibilities. Talk about having something to look forward to each day. Will it be something sweet and considerate or hot and sexy? It's either a tried and true favorite or something you've been dying to try out. So bring on the bag for a month full of treats!
3. Put Your Pleasure Down on Paper.
It's not just about pleasure - the physical kind - but the emotional and appreciative kind as well. Dedicate the month of September to letting your mate know just how much pleasure has been brought into your life. Leave notes in imaginative places drawing attention to those little and big things that have just lit your fire. Did he take the kids out because you needed some time alone, cleaned up the kitchen after having cooked too, or drew you a hot steamy bath with a tall glass of your favorite ice cold sparkling drink? Did she travel all the way across town to pick up your favorite beer, or get a sitter for a romantic night at home alone? Sing your mate's praises this month, and set yourself up for more of the same in the future.
4. Commit It to Memory.
This month, pay attention to all of the things that you often overlook. Make note of your mate's favorite things, habits, likes and dislikes. Write it down if you must! In the everyday hustle and bustle it's so easy to become out of touch. Commit yourself to spending the entire month taking it all in. At month's end using your cheat sheet, begin to delight your mate with something pleasurable on a more frequent basis. Your thoughtfulness will make a huge impression, and you'll both revel in all that newfound love and attention.
5. Remember It Takes Two!
The key to putting pleasure back into a relationship or kicking it up a notch is to give it the attention it deserves. Whether it's your pleasure or your mate's, remember to celebrate it on a regular basis to both keep the spark alive, and bring intimacy back into the everyday relationship. Don't believe me? Watch your mate's face light up when you remember a favorite food, song, or show. Think back to the smile that came to your face after a thoughtful phone call or a gift - just because. It's the little things that make your smile, that keep you guessing, that makes your heart go pitter pat that makes it all worthwhile.
So get ready to heat up the month of September. Whether your ideas heat up the bedroom or not, thinking outside of yourself will surely make your relationship positively purr with satisfaction.
Written by StorkNetFamily staff writer Kim Green-Spangler
