From time to time, we like to take the opportunity to interview people who are influential to the online dating scene. From eHarmony, please welcome Ms. Shannon Kauffman. She is a 33 year old attorney and has been a member of eHarmony now for 3 years. While this may seem like a long time, her reason(s) are perfectly valid: She refuses to settle for anything less than perfection. She started her journey back in May 21st, 2011 and kept a diary of her experiences. Over the course of the next three years, she compiled her musings and writing into a best selling book: “Why Doesn’t The Girl Call Me Back After The First Date?”
Many people have decried her book as “feminist nonsense” but if we take a closer look at who those people are, we can clearly see they are nothing more than internet trolls, sitting in mom’s basement. Many other people have said Karens book charts the plight of the single female in 2014 perfectly. So from here on out, I’d like to hand this article over to Karen and she will be writing it from her perspective.
Hi, my name is Karen and I am a lifetime online dater. Not because I can’t find what I’m looking for….oh wait, that’s exactly why I’m a serial dater. After many years (and months) of failed relationships, I decided that I wasn’t going to settle for anything/anyone less than perfect. Being that the bar scene here in Southern California is an absolute joke (think you can find someone in Orange County at the singles bars? Think again!), I decided to sign up for eHarmony after seeing their commercials on t.v. 24/7. I wanted to find a quality guy and I put in almost 2 hours of effort filling out my personality profile. I found a couple of online coupons that saved me some money on the 12 month subscription and that was that….or so I thought. After 6 months of dating on there, I realized something: It wasn’t them, it was me. The guys that I met on eHarmony were extremely nice and well mannered and successful and good looking. I was just being too picky. I went on to feel this way for another 3 years until I had yet another epiphany. It wasn’t me, it was them.
I think the reason for me being on there for so long is due to the fact that I live in California, and the people out here are just lame (for the most part). It’s a very self centered culture and it’s all about money and looks. Being that I am not one to give up easily, I will soldier on until I meet the man of my dreams.
In conclusion, my only advice is to keep on keeping on. Eventually you will meet that special someone online. Even though I have been on eHarmony now for 3 years, I wouldn’t let it discourage anyone from trying it. My standards are impossibly high and I have been regarded as a word that rhymes with “witch.” So be it.